What conclusion can be drawn about Okonkwo being upset?

Okonkwo is upset that Nwoye has joined the missionaries because he thinks that proves that Nwoye is weak and effeminate.
Okonkwo learns that his son Nwoye has joined the missionaries in Umuofia and he is happy.
Okonkwo learns about the massacre of the villagers in Abame by white men and becomes upset.
Okonkwo has striven all his life to be manly and becomes upset about women.