Answer: 1,2 and 4
Explanation:
It is on rare cases your spouse will make mention of option 4, only if they have been real problems in the marriage and going on for more than 10years is a big issues.
Of course they will always want to cover there weakness they wouldn't want to expose themselves to the public, they would want to say the sweet and best thing concerning there partners, they will want to use the opportunity to even settle some cases that might be going on between them so the best group of choice spouse would make in this scenario is 1,2 and 4.